Back that Hug Up Lyrics

Back that hug up
Back it up
Back up that hug
Back it up

Yeah I said
Back that hug up
Back it up
Back up that hug
Back it up

Back it up, back it up
I just want you to back it up
The words that you say and
The songs that you play
They don’t mean nothing at all
It all seems so fake
When you give me a hug but
Then you can’t even stay
To face the music
Hear a few of my songs
You got better things to do
So you’re gone

And you just hug me
And go away
Don’t have any time to stay
Yeah, you just hug me
And go away
Don’t have any time to stay

Just a little time with you
is all that I want
Just to hang out as friends
Who knows you might
Have some fun
Share a little time with me
So you can back up
You can back up that hug
That you love oh so much

But you just hug me and go away
Don’t have any time to stay
Yeah, you just hug me and go away
You never have the time to stay

I love a really good hug
Yeah a super tight hug
A leap and lift spin around
Feelin good hug
Any kind of hug from a
Friend that is real
And backs it up, sticks around
That’s the real deal

So just hug me
And go away
You are a hugger
So hug away
But you just hug me
To keep me at bay
Hope I forget about the
Head games you play

You back your ass up to me
Want me to smack it
I put my hand on your leg
You run away
You say you know we love you
You’re fantastic
But I never get invited to play
Down to Mexico, having fun in Baja
Or on a sail with friends down at the bay
I’ve given up on it now
So just forget it
I don’t want your pity
I know my place
Shallow and lazy
You can’t dig any deeper
You always try and gloss
Everything over with a hug
So don’t bother wasting
Any more of my time
Til you can back that hug up

Back it up

Yeah I said
Back, that hug up
Back it up,
Back up that hug
Back it up

Yeah, I said
Back, that hug up
Back it up,
Back up that hug
Back it up

I love a really good hug
Yeah a super tight hug
A leap & lift, spin around
Feeling good hug
Any kinda hug from a
Friend who is real
Let’s me in, backs it up
That’s the real deal

So just back, that hug up
Back it up
Back up that hug
Back it up
Yeah I said back that hug up
Back it up
Back up that hug
Back it Up

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Story Behind This Song

“Do not fear the enemy who attacks you, but the fake friend that hugs you”. I’m sure most people have seen this quote come up in a meme/photo on Facebook/Twitter before, but it is sooo true and the theme of this song. I love hugs, if they are truly genuine, and the people that hug you are being sincere instead of just going through the typical obligatory hug routine. I mean a “handshake” hug, what I call the obligatory hug, is great. It’s a more intimate kind of handshake, even if you don’t know someone all that well. All kinds of hugs are great, as my song says!

However, what I can’t stand is when people completely shit on you and the next time they see you it’s hey “give me a hug” and you can’t believe they would think you actually want to hug them after how they treated you. Case in point – this guy who I’ve been referring to in my song stories for Hypnotize Me Please, Get a Move On, & Wanna Dance, is one of those people.

When I first discovered this guys’ band, I was fairly new to San Diego and was excited I had finally found a band who’s music I was completely into. The guys in the band seemed really nice and fun as well and I was thinking to myself it’d be cool to hang with this group of people and make friends, as they seemed to live the beachy lifestyle as well that I loved. After their CD release party that I went to, I sent out friend requests to all the guys in the bands I wasn’t friends with, including this fake hugger that I’ll be referring to. I was hesitant to send a friend request to this guy, as the night before, there was kind of a weird encounter (read more on the Hypnotize Me Please song story for more of the backstory on that). However, I didn’t want to not request him and request everybody else. I just kind of think that way about being inclusive vs. exclusive with people. Anyways, needless to say he denied me right away, I mean there was no leaving me in que and thinking about it for a bit, it was the automatic FB denial, but now Facebook calls it something nicer, with the “not now” button. Maybe he just couldn’t handle being friends with me if he was interested in me or something and had a girlfriend or maybe he just had a policy of not being Facebook friends with fans. I was a bit perplexed. The next weekend or two after when I saw him at the next show, he immediately came up to me and gave me a hug, I think this was definitely to overcompensate for the FB friend denial and again, a move to just “keep me at bay”! So you deny someone a connection into your little stupid Facebook world but immediately hug them the next time you see them. I didn’t get it, seemed fake to me. Especially when he ended up accepting a friend request from a friend of mine I had recently met who just discovered the band as well (which threw my not being FB friends with random fans theory out the door). This was NOTHING though, in relation to how he came up and hugged me the next time he completely showed no respect to me.

I had been a big fan of his band for a great amount of time. I went to a lot of shows, shared his bands stuff online to help promote them but really, truly because I believed they had great music and I love sharing music that I love. One night, after he had broken up with his girlfriend for good (just for reference here), I ran into him at this bar where I was going to be singing at open mic night. He greeted me with this unusually tight hug and then later stuck his ass in my face (as he probably wanted me to smack it). I didn’t smack it at that point as I was super nervous (not shy) about singing open mic night in front of him. I was going up to sing right after the guy that was currently on stage. I had told him I was nervous and that I was going up next, and then he pretended to get out a piece of paper as if he were going to judge, ha! What truly amazed and appalled me was that he left, RIGHT as I was getting up on stage to sing. He couldn’t even stay any longer to hear 3 little old songs of mine, after all the respect and support I had shown him and his band, he couldn’t stay for 3 measly songs? The next time I saw him, he just started to try and come up and give me this hug and I was not having any of it. I told him he was on my shit list for leaving and not being able to show any respect and support. He admitted to being an ass, but what the assbag should have done was say, ya know what I was an ass, let me make it up to you sometime. Let me know when you’re going out for an open mic night again and I’ll try to make it out.

NO such response from him. However even with that, I didn’t hold a grudge, I did tell him that he was still on my shit list and that he owed me an open mic night. I tried a couple times to ask him to see if he’d come out to an open mic night I was going to and I seriously didn’t care that he couldn’t make it out then. I would have been completely fine if he could have just come out ONE time and shown some support, especially after ditching me the way he did. I didn’t even care if he told me I suck and had no interest in ever hearing me again, at least he would be being real and honest then – I can respect that!

However, when I went to an open mic night a few months later and saw that he came with a group of friends to support this friend of his (platonic friend who was a girl) that was singing open mic that night and they asked to go in front of me and they sang a duet, it was just too much for me to take. This was after the whole if you keep running I’m not waiting fiasco that I describe in my Get a Move On song story.  Even that night, he barely paid attention to any of my songs I performed. I knew he would like the Boys in Bands song as that song played to his starving and famished EGO. However he couldn’t be bothered to show any respect and listen to my Get a Move On song (which I knew he wouldn’t anyway, as I knew he would run away like a chicken with his head cut off – hypocrite!). At least I listened to and respected his stupid if you keep running, I’m not waiting song. He didn’t even come up and give me a high five or say anything to me after I sang that night at open mic night either. I mean no respect, at all, simply unbelievable.

I guess I just always wanted to be friends and hang out with his band which was why again I was upset and disappointed that I did not get invited to go down with them and a group of friends to Mexico like they usually do once a year. I had told one of the band members that I would love to go down to Mexico with them sometime and got a load of shit like oh, it’s dangerous to go down there for girls. Then, they went down with a whole group of people including some girls and the Barbie doll (who I reference in the backstory for my Wanna Dance song). That was the weekend I bet they hooked up for the first time which is probably the real reason why I was not invited. However I wouldn’t have cared if I was down there when it happened and they got together. People need to get over themselves! If people are just real with me and let me in, I can respect that. You’re not all that. I would prefer to just have a great time enjoying the company and having adventures with inclusive, open, and caring people.

Unfortunately, it’s just hard to really believe in a lot of their music now, since this fake hugger writes a lot of their songs. Any words/lyrics from him are completely meaningless to me and have no credibility, so I just can’t vibe with it the way I used to or will ever be able to do again. That is the real reason why I just do not respect the fake hugger. I’ll never get that unjaded spirit back that I had for the band, unless, perhaps, they get a new lead singer. I guess you can O.D. on some bands, like my Boys in Bands song says might happen to some super fans!

It’s amazing, but I’ve realized just because someone lives a similar lifestyle to you and you think it might be cool to be friends them, you should never have to try so hard to be anyone’s friend. If they can’t be your friend, then they are missing out on some serious benefits, which is why I called my album Friends with Benefits and have a song of the same name! Even friends that you may not have a lot in common with, if they are there for you, do not flake on you, and you can depend on them, hold onto that!! As I allude to at the end of my alternate version of Anuhea’s “Big Deal” song, “let all the rays of sunshine into your life”